Surgery?

Hello,
Well my husband has had chron's disease since he was the age of 8, that makes it 12 years of Chron's. He has like a bridge connecting from his intestine (or stomach) to his bladder. So when he uses the bathroom, bubbles come out. It has gotten to the point where he had to schedule an appointment for surgery. This is his first surgery, he has turned it down many many times. He feels so bad that he just wants to feel good. He says he wants a normal life with his family.

Is there anyone who can give me any advice for him?

He is very nervous and he doesn't know what to expect. The reason why his Chron's has gotten worse is because he stresses about EVERYTHING. He falls asleep thinking. He doesn't know how to control himself of thinking far beyond and he knows that this is what causes his flare ups.

His surgery is soon and I want to give him faith that he can live a normal life (we know that he will be drinking medicine for the rest of his life.)

Thank you in advance.

Licy