How do you tell your boss you are having a flare up and need time to recover?

by dez korn
(Raleigh, NC)

How do you tell your boss you are having a crohn's flare up? I am currently having the worst flare up I have ever had and it has really taken it's toll on me. This is not an easy disease to talk about for me anyway. I find it rather a tough subject to talk about even with my doctor.

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by: Annette Young

Hello there,
Many people feel the same as you and prefer not talk about this disease. I can completely understand that having a conversation about chronic constipation or acute diarrhea is not the most pleasant of topics and when you are suffering a severe flare-up, you just want to be alone and to deal with in your own way.

Having said that, there is not enough communication about Crohn's disease. The very nature of Crohn's makes it a secretive disease and as such there can be little understanding. Some years ago I worked as a member of the human resources team and I do recall that we were very sympathetic to those with health problems including those with Crohn's disease who often suffered with erratic hours as a result of the inconsistency of symptoms. We made our policy to have an open door approach and no subject was taboo.

if I was in your situation right now, I would collect any leaflets on the disease and do some background research and make an appointment to see my boss and provide all the information so that he or she could read up on it and have an in-depth understanding of how difficult it can be to work with the disease. You will then be able to eradicate the need to talk about the intricacies of the condition and focus on other elements.

It is important that they understand that stress and anxiety can actually make it far worse, so by your being open you can also strip away the potential for the anxiety to trigger further flare-ups. It will seriously feel like a relief and a weight off your shoulders once you are open about it all.

I know it won't be easy if you do feel embarrassed about how it affects you but once you have taken this first step, you may find that your employers are a whole lot more understanding. Honesty really is the best policy.

I have attached a link that may be of use.
http://www.everydayhealth.com/crohns-disease/5-ways-to-deal-with-crohns-at-work.aspx

I hope this helps and I wish you the best of luck,
Annette

Tell your boss
by: Rich

The best thing you can do is tell your boss about your situation. Maybe even give him / her some information about it, or have them look up some things online. Nobody seems to really understand until they do a little research. Hopefully your boss will have a little empathy for the situation and will be able to withstand the time you are off. In these tight times, it's tough. I work with a Crohns sufferer and she is out alot, but we can deal with it. Best of luck to you and your health.

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